A 32-page e-booklet by Andrea Reynolds
Questions from my booklet appeared in an episode of sitcom, What I like About You. Jennie Garth read them to Dan Cortese.
2 digital copies:
$5.00
Are you engaged to be
married... or thinking about it?
As you near the date you
plan to propose or as you plan your wedding you need to
think also about your life as a married couple.
Do your values and
expectations match? Will your marriage last or will yours
be another divorce statistic?
"My booklet will help you
be sure your marriage is based on mutual
expectations."
Found on
this page:
1. The Story Behind the
Booklet
2. 6 Ways This Booklet is
Different
3. 12 Ways You'll
Benefit
4. 17 Sample
Questions
5. Give as
Gifts
6. Reader
Mail
7. About the Author
8. Book
Review
9. News
Release
10. Interview
Questions
11. Order
Info
12. Quantity
sales
13. Related Publications
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version: 5.5" x 8.5" size
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12 Ways
you'll benefit from No Surprises
- Learn more about the person you want to marry,
- Base your decision to marry on knowledge and wisdom,
- Reduce your chances of being a divorce statistic,
- Uncover unrealistic expectations before it's too late,
- Find out if you're marrying the right person,
- Find out if you're marrying too soon,
- Find out if you're mature enough for marriage,
- Plan for the marriage... not just the wedding,
- Establish good communication with your intended partner,
- Find out what the potential conflicts are... before you say "I do,"
- Avoid the heartache of being stood up at the altar,
- Avoid
the loss and suffering of a painful
divorce.
When to ask these questions:
1. When your relationship becomes serious.
2. When you begin talking about living together.
3. While planning your wedding and planning your marriage.
4. When you've been married or living together for a year or more and want to enhance communication in your relationship.
This booklet was featured
on the TV series, "What I
Like About You" The episode was "The
Garden State" with Jennie Garth, Dan Cortese and Amanda
Bynes.
The Story
Behind the Booklet
This is the booklet I wish
I'd had in my hand when I was teaching junior and senior
high school classes on dating, when I was conducting
seminars for single adults and before I married the man I
did. This information didn't exist anywhere so I had to
write it. Now it's supplemental reading in family studies
programs. If you are planning to marry or know someone who
is... read on. (Parents: I can even send copies to couples
anonymously!)
When you believe you have
found the ideal life partner, here are 365 questions to
ensure you both have similar expectations of your life
together. Don't let your future marriage end in divorce
because of "irreconcilable differences."
Order my 365 questions
booklet and learn how to ask those questions to get true
answers you can compare.
6 Ways
this booklet is different from any other book of marriage
questions...
1.
This is the
first marriage question book to appear in print, in 1993,
inspired by a Phil Donahue show.
2.
These
questions are open-ended,
non-judgmental questions which can't be answered
with just a YES or NO. There are no wrong answers, just
answers you hope you'll both agree on.
3.
There
are 365
questions, not just 100. That means
you can ask two questions every day for 6 months which is
the optimum engagement period.
4.
For the same
price as one of the competing books, you can receive TWO
copies of No
Surprises: 365 Critical Questions You Need to Ask Each
Other Before You Marry ... and how to ask them
so you can
answer the questions separately and compare them later.
5.You can
also order the 3 page article I
wrote which was published in Wedding
Bells Magazine, 20 Questions You Need to Ask Each Other about
Lovemaking and Romance.
$5.00
6.
Unlike the
other authors, Andrea Reynolds earned a degree in
Family Studies and has been a
relationship expert for many years appearing on numerous
national television programs.
17 Sample
Questions from the booklet for Newspaper or Magazine
Editors:
You may
publish any or all of the following 17 questions, but only
if you provide my web site address - BitangoBooks.com - as
the place where my booklet can be purchased. (Not available
in stores.) Thanks.
1. Love
& Romance What are the specific ways
you prefer to show your love?
2. Wedding
& Marriage What is your perception of
the role of "Husband"? "Wife"?
3. Sex &
Lovemaking At what times will
we not
have sexual
relations?
4. Children
What about
your own childhood do you want to be different for our
children?
5. Family
& Friends If my aging parents become
unable to care for themselves where will they live?
6. Money
& Finances If we have to tighten our
budget, what expenditures are you willing to give up?
7. Career
& Work If I'm offered a terrific
job which requires relocation to a city you dislike, what
are your feelings about moving there with me?
8. Health
& Illness If I were in an accident
and became paralyzed, how would that change your feelings
for me or your behavior?
9. Aging
& Appearance What effect of aging would
make me less attractive to you?
10. Values
& Religion When do you believe it's
OK to cheat on your income tax, pad an expense account, or
do some creative wiring to get free cable TV or telephone
calls?
11. Potential
Conflicts If we have a big marital
problem who will we look to for guidance and advice?
12. Fidelity
& Infidelity Under what circumstances
would it be OK with you if I had sex with other partners
during our marriage?
13. Divorce
What would
cause you to leave our marriage . . . permanently or
temporarily?
14. Past
History Who is the past love that
you still pine for?
15. Personal
Preferences How long does it usually
take you to make a decision?
16. Home
Life What will the dinner scene
be like in our home?
17. Leisure
& Activities How many times a week will
you go out alone or with buddies?
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and receive 348 more questions
Give
these booklets as gifts
1. Give booklets to
your pastor,
priest, rabbi, minister to use in his/her work.
2. Donate booklets
to your church, temple, school, and university
libraries.
3. Give 2 booklets
to each of your single
adult family members.
4. Tuck 2 booklets (one
for each partner) into bridal
shower gifts.
5. Sell booklets as
a fund raiser for your church or
singles group.
(quantity discounts
available.)
6.
Marriage
counselors: give 2 booklets to each
couple as a starting point for communication. Booklets can
be customized with your firm's name and address.
7.
Divorce
lawyers: give booklets to
your clients who one day will be dating again.
8.
Wedding
services providers: give complimentary
booklets to your customers. Booklets can be customized with
your name and address.
9.
Pastors,
priests, rabbis: provide booklets
to the engaged couples you counsel before the ceremony.
10. Psychiatrists,
psychologists: provide booklets
to the individuals you counsel. Booklets can be customized
with your name and address.
Reader
Mail
"Your interview/discussion
on the Life Network was not only interesting but made a lot
of sense. My congratulations to the Life Network for
an interesting, informative, and necessary program."
Sidney,
British Columbia
"I saw your article in
Wedding Bells magazine at my friend's house. I really
enjoyed this article; if only I had thought of those
questions before I married my ex-husband!! I
guarantee I would have saved myself a lot of agony. I am
presently in a relationship and I plan on using these
questions if we ever think about getting married."
Etobicoke,
Ontario
"Congratulations on your
televised discussion on how couples get married without
dealing with the things that form the foundation of their
relationship. People often lose focus in the chaos of
wedding preparation." Etobicoke,
Ontario
"Recently you aired a
programme [with] Andrea Reynolds. Needless to say I enjoyed
it very much and learned much from it. Had I seen it years
ago I would never have become involved in an abusive
marriage, which resulted in my present, very complicated
situation." Agincourt,
Ontario
"I am not engaged or even
in a relationship at this time; however, a year ago I ended
a three-year relationship that could have been a
matrimonial disaster. I want to be prepared the next time I
get involved with someone. I think by discussing the
simple things like banking and sleeping arrangements, etc.,
it will definitely help when the time comes to make that
everlasting commitment." Calgary,
Alberta
"I saw you interviewed on
T.V. I have never heard those questions put before us
so plainly and necessarily, This book should be a
must in schools, too." Victoria,
British Columbia
About the
Author
Andrea
Reynolds is a writer/broadcaster
who has appeared as a guest expert on The Life Network: All
You Can Be, Real Life, Just Ask; Dini Petty Show, and
Breakfast Television. She has hosted her own radio
call-in show on relationships, introducing topics on date
rape, safe sex, emotional abuse, rejection, and affairs.
Besides studying Marriage
and Family Relations, psychology, communications, and
education in 3 countries, Andrea has also trained as a
crisis hot-line volunteer and has successfully handled
suicide interventions.
In 1975, she began
teaching classes on dating and relationships in junior and
senior high schools, and later taught advanced programs for
adults. She lectures through corporations, hospitals,
conferences, universities and high schools; often speaking
to men and women who have come out of empty, addictive, or
abusive relationships and who have lacked healthy
self-esteem. Psychologists, psychiatrists, and
psychotherapists recommend her seminars and handbooks to
their patients and clients.
A practical philosopher,
she believes relationships require an entrepreneurial
attitude: "If you want to find happiness with a loving
partner, invest as much energy and creativity in each
important relationship . . . including the one you have
with yourself . . . as you do in your business or
career."
Book
Review reprinted
with permission
LEARNING
LOVE AND LIFE Weekly NewsletterNo. 30, October 28,
1999Copyright (c) 1999 by
Benjamin Devey
No
Surprises! 365 Critical Questions You Need to Ask Each
Other Before You Marry
The title pretty much sums
up "No Surprises!" It is a straightforward list of--you
guessed it--critical questions to ask before two people
marry. This 32-page booklet covers 20 topics, including
love & romance, sex & lovemaking, family &
friends, money & finance, work & business, health
& illness, aging & appearance, values &
religion, fidelity, divorce and several others. Reynolds
also gives helpful tips on discussing issues and
withholding judgment to get to the truth.
Reynolds is a broadcaster
and author who has appeared on television and has hosted
her own call-in radio show on relationships. She gives
seminars and lectures through institutions, businesses and
conferences, focusing on relationship issues.
Reynolds' questions are
open-ended, requiring thought rather than simple reply
answers. They are intended to prompt discussion about
attitudes and values, as well as uncover deceptions and
indiscreet value systems.
Here are
a few questions from "No Surprises!":
Wedding
& Marriage -- What is your perception
of the role of "husband"? "Wife"?
Children
-- What about
your own childhood do you want to be different for our
children?
Potential
Conflicts -- If we have a big
marital problem, who will we look to for guidance and
advice?
Personal
Preferences -- How long does it
usually take you to make a decision?
Reynolds' 365 questions
are not fluffy, nor hurriedly dashed off on the way to the
printer. They are thought provoking, often giving the
reader a different perspective on an issue he had presumed
settled in his own mind. Even when the reader squirms
uncomfortably, the questions challenge lazy assumptions of
ethical fortitude.
Reynolds' introduction
gave me insights on the value of "No Surprises!" It's not
just for dating and divorced singles, but it can help
happily married couples discuss issues that can strengthen
their understanding of each other. Its real value will
depend on the reader's courage to confront real issues over
romantic assumptions.
"No
Surprises! 365 Critical Questions You Need to Ask Each
Other Before You Marry" can be ordered from
Andrea Reynolds.
News
Release
For Interviews, contact:
Andrea Reynolds, bitangobooks@gmail.com
(656)
227-1130
You've
popped the question or said yes...
Are you sure you're marrying the right
person?
When we're in love we
assume that our partner has the same expectations about
sharing life together that we do. Couples who don't take
the time to discover if their partner's choices and
expectations of marriage really match may be in for a rude
awakening later on. Just ask someone who is divorced.
"You can get revealing
answers by asking the right questions, in the right way,"
counsels Andrea Reynolds, former family studies teacher,
broadcaster, and author of No
Surprises! 365 Critical Questions You Need to Ask Each
Other Before You Marry... and how to ask
them,
"but many new couples seem to be concerned more with
wedding plans than marriage expectations. The 365 questions
are designed to initiate deeper communication and emotional
intimacy ... without putting either one on the defensive."
Reynolds compiled the open-ended questions -- you can't
answer just yes or no -- she wished she had asked before
she married.
She tackles 19 powerful
and difficult subjects -- money, values and religion,
lovemaking, children, aging, death, infidelity, and even
divorce. Over a 6 month engagement couples can ask 2
questions a day in their conversations. "But," she
cautions, "you must listen to the answers... both your
partner's and your own."
No
Surprises! is a thoughtful engagement
or bridal shower gift, a resource for pre-marriage and
marriage counseling, a teaching tool in marriage relations
programs such as Kent State University's School of Human
and Family Studies, a library donation, and a fund raising
item. No Surprises has been featured on the sitcom, "What I
Like About You."
The 32 page, digital
booklet is available from Andrea
Reynolds, 2 for
$3.00 or ask about quantity
orders or a license to reprint for use in classes,
churches, or for fund raising campaigns. Debit cards and
credit cards are accepted through
PayPal.
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D - - -
Andrea Reynolds is
available for interviews to discuss the rationale behind
any questions.Suggested Interview Questions below.
A good talk show opener
is: Would
you want to be asked 365 questions by the person you think
you want to marry?
Suggested
Interview Questions
1. Why
365 Questions?
2. How was Phil Donahue
the catalyst for these questions?
3. Did you look at the
experiences of people you knew when writing the questions?
4. Aren't you being too
analytical? Isn't the feeling of love enough to guide and
sustain couples?
5. Aren't you encouraging
couples to cancel weddings and stay single?
6. Did or do you use these
questions in your own life?
7. Why not create a
checklist so people can just check YES or NO?
8. How long of an
engagement period do you think is appropriate?
9. Who is the typical
buyer of this question booklet? Parents?
10. Which are the most
critical questions?
11. Why are some chapters
long and some so short?
12. What if people are
stumped by a question and can't figure out how to answer
it? Where can they get an explanation or help?
13. Why do you sell two
booklets together?
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publications
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need this on the honeymoon: The Bed &
Breakfast Guest Etiquette Quiz (mentioned in USA
Today)
Please don't marry one of
these: OutSmarting Sweetheart
Swindlers: How to Protect Your
Heart and Finances from Romantic Con
Artists
Don't forget to date your
spouse: Let's Do Something
...besides Dinner and a Movie Dating
Activity
Handbook
Make every day Valentine's
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